The truth is that it really isn’t as hard as people make it out to be. Yes relationships aren’t easy. They were never designed to be. And that’s why the best relationships are always the ones you work hardest for. The best things in life never come easily after all. And that’s why relationships can be such a challenge.
You meet someone, you develop some kind of chemistry with that person. You get to know one another and maybe you fall in love. You start out your relationship and you say that you commit to one another. And everything is off to a great start. It’s like nothing can come between the two of you.
You become really invested in what you have and you genuinely hope that the best is yet to come. But then the fire starts to die out in your relationship. You start to discover that perhaps things aren’t going to be as easy as you thought they would be. Maybe love just doesn’t come as naturally to the two of you as you wish it would. You discover that you have to fight for your love; fight to keep the flames of your passion alive. You have your share of problems in the relationship. They rattle you, but not enough to cripple you. You know that you shouldn’t be taking these challenges lightly; that you should always be taking these things seriously.
You know that you can’t be taking your relationship for granted and that you always have to be exerting maximum effort into trying to make things work. And you overcome your fair share of obstacles; and you know that you are doing a good job for the most part. But then there’s still that looming threat that is bothering you; infidelity. You’ve seen it all around you; both in real life and in the movies. You know that it’s just really rare to find people in relationships that remain faithful nowadays. The world has become smaller and it’s just so easy for people to be unfaithful. It’s all too simple to slide into someone else’s DM’s.
There is no shortage of drama in the world today and you want to make sure that your relationship is immune to it. You want to make sure that your guy doesn’t have to be put in a position of having to resist all of these temptations. You don’t want your partner to be put in a position of vulnerability. You don’t want to be taking any chances. You want to make sure that your partner stays loyal and faithful to you and your relationship alone. You don’t want him sniffing up anyone else’s skirt. And you know that you can’t be complacent. Yes, you trust him.
But you also have to be doing your part to make yourself a partner who is actually worth holding on to. You want to make sure that you are someone who is worth being faithful to.
A lot of what makes relationships work is having a shared effort between the two people involved. You can’t expect your partner to be loyal to you if you’re not doing your part; if you’re not doing your share of heavy lifting for the relationship. You need to make sure that you are doing everything possible to sustain the love and passion in your relationship. The more you make your man fall in love with you, the less likely it is for him to be seeking love and affection in other women. The more you are able to fulfill his needs, the less likely it will be for him to cheat on you. And at the end of the day, that’s all he’s ever going to ask from you: effort.
1. Hug your man every day that you’re together.
Express your love and physical affection for him on a consistent basis. Even something as simple as hugging him every day can increase your level of physical intimacy; and it will make him feel more at home whenever he’s with you.
2. Make time to really talk to one another.
Always take the time to really talk things out with each other. You have to be on the same page as much as possible in your relationship. When you have problems, don’t sweep them under the rug. Talk about them. Hash things out. Be willing to have these difficult conversations. Make sure that he has a voice that you’re willing to listen to. Make him feel heard and valued.
3. Make sure he knows that you’re always there for him.
Be reliable. Be dependable. Be the kind of girl he can always count on to be there for him no matter how hard things may get in your relationship. If you make him feel like he can always rely on you, then he isn’t going to want to be with anyone else.
Make him feel the level of commitment that you’re delivering into this relationship. Make him understand just how serious you are about making things work with him; and he’s going to return the favor.