SECRETS FOR FINDING LOVE
These are reminders, not revelations. And that’s as it should be. Love isn’t so difficult that there are secrets you never knew; It’s just that sometimes we lose the plot a bit and need to remind ourselves of what’s really important and what we should aim for to make all our relationships deep and lasting.
Here are secrets to finding love that last.
– YOU CAN’T CHANGE PEOPLE
Everyone can be irritating from time to time in a relationship (including you). The fact is you can’t ask people to change, and even if they wanted to they couldn’t do it. Sure, they can modify their behavior, but they can’t change their personality.
If you meet someone who is perfect apart from being alcoholic, or physically abusive, or serially unfaithful, you won’t change that either. Please don’t kid yourself.
They might keep the behavior in check for a while, but when the euphoria wears off and the stress of normal life returns, they will go back to their old ways.
– GET TO KNOW SOMEONE THROUGH ALL THE SEASONS BEFORE MAKING ANY MAJOR DECISIONS
We are all quite cautious about how much of ourselves we reveal to other people. And in a new relationship, we’re going to do our best to present the most positive things to our new partner.
You do it, i do it, we all do it.If this is really the right person to be with, waiting 12 months will be well worth it.
– CHOOSE SOMEONE WHO MAKES YOU LAUGH
I ought to have put this rule first, because i think it’s absolutely the most important thing of all in a relationship. If you choose your partner for physical physique , personality, you could regret it eventually.
Laughter is worth it’s weight in gold. A sense of humor is a very personal thing, and some people just make us laugh more than others. When you find someone who makes you laugh, makes you happy more than anyone else, keep them. That’s my advice.
A sense of humor will last you long after everything else is gone.