Most couples are ignorant that if they don’t have anything to keep them busy, they will start to fight each other. It is a true fact that common projects, common goals, dreams, and vision are ways to make the marriage a successful one but most couples are visionless.
Somebody said, “If you don’t know where you are going, your journey is very far”. Your vision is your life; your vision is seeing your future through the eyes of faith in God. Vision makes the team WORK but without vision, there will be WAR in the team.
When there is no vision, marriage perishes. It stops growing, flourishing and deteriorates. You need a sense of
direction and destiny. You can, and will achieve more in your marriage and family if you have a vision and channel your strength and resources to achieve it.
Step 1. Sit down with your spouse in a quiet place where your children cannot disturb you; off your phones and listen to each other. Talk with your spouse for at least two hours.
Step 2. Have writing materials with you (Pen and jotters) and take individual notes as both of you talk.
Step 3. Talk about your past, how you met, how far you’ve been together. This meeting is not meant for sorting out misunderstandings. It is a “vision-meeting”, so don’t blame, condemn, accuse or fight each other.
Step 4. Talk about your present , your love life, sex life, marriage, spiritual life, children, career, etc (All discussions must be positive not an avenue to shift blame.
Step 5. Talk about the future. Your expectations, plans, aspirations, etc.
Step 6. Be specific. Talk about:
1. Heavenly vision. Develop a vision about your spiritual life and how to fulfill it.
2. Matrimonial vision. Develop a vision about your marriage and agree on what you want it to be, what you want to see, etc
1. Progress vision. Talk about your career, finances, projects and properties. What do you want? Where do you
want to be? And when? Go ahead formulate a progressive vision and issues on how to fulfill it.
1. Parental Vision. What do you want your children to become? When and how do you want them to get there?
Write down your resolutions and keep on talking about them.
Your discussion continues as you must continue to review this vision and assess your results.
Step 7. Pray together about your visions. “And the Lord answer me, and said, write the vision and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it. For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak for it, because it will surely come; it will not tarry”. (Habakkuk 2:2-3)