There are two kinds of people today. a) The ones who are getting married and posting pictures on Facebook. b) The ones who block them.

Here are 11 reasons why many are not getting married

1. Nobody wants to lose his/her freedom

There is a common notion that marriage kills freedom. It’s like your wings get clipped by your partner and you’re not going to be able to fly high again. Single people today are much more proud of not being dependent and being on their own. However, after marriage, the picture changes and you become answerable for every action. That is something people are not ready to do today.

2. Youngsters are not ready to adjust

We have been told by our mothers that post marriage one will have to keep ‘adjusting’ to fit into the new house and new relationships. Our mothers adjusted, their mothers did too, but for us, it’s becoming seemingly difficult to make adjustments because of our fast lifestyle and eternal existential crisis.

3. Career is more important

Will my partner make a fuss about being in office for long hours? Will he or she understand my love for my career? Will he or she be career-driven like me? These are some not-so-easy questions that come up when you love your career more than you love yourself. Today, life is all about cutthroat competition, where you need to be quick and efficient to make it big. However, post marriage ten different things will demand your attention at once, and you could end up being last in the rat race.

4. People want to travel the world

“Why aren’t you getting married?”, “Oh please, I want to see the world first, travel, and then let’s see!” is a normal conversation you will hear today. Today, travel is on the top of one’s priority list. People are actually saving so that they can travel and explore a new country. Marriage, therefore, takes a backseat.

5. Everybody wants to have fun

Our generation is plagued by commitment issues. Everybody wants to have ‘fun’ and then forget about it. Facebook should now add a relationship status that says ‘nothing serious’ as people are not ready to be serious about taking the next step.

6. Peer pressure

“Oh, why is everybody getting married? My Facebook is full of marriage photos” is making people push their wedding plans. People are resenting the idea of marriage for no reason. And then there are people who are just following the trend of dissing marriage on Facebook.

7. There are unrealistic expectations

“He should be an MBA, and she should be fair and lovely”, is still how people are posting ads on matrimonial sites and sections. Such shallow expectations are enough to erase faith from the institution called marriage.

8. People think they will become ‘boring’

Another strange notion is that married couples are ‘boring’. Because married couples talk about diaper issues and maid problems, people assume that even their future will be identical, and therefore they avoid settling down.

9. Youngsters want to prove themselves

Ambitions do not allow you to think about marriage. And the time and effort needed to reach your goals trump all else. Everything else can wait.

10. Trust issues

It often happens that after a bad breakup, people start developing trust issues. They are badly bruised in their past relationships and therefore they don’t want to put themselves out there.

11. An eternal existential crisis and confusion

The world has become so fickle, that many of us go through a quarter or mid-life crisis every few months. It bogs us down. Many do not recover, some get out of it quickly. However, figuring out things takes time and therefore marriage is the last thing on one’s mind.

Author

The writer is Alamu Tosin. I have three strong passions in life — football, blogging and movies — in that order. I love spending time with friends talking about the important things in life and hate nothing more than ‘authority’ and hypocrisy. My personal believe in life is that once an individual sets his/her mind to achieve something, it is totally possible. And oh!, I am a strong Lannister, because I always pay my debt. For writing or fixing gigs, contact tosinalamu@gmail.com.

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