We’ve all suffered from at least one bad breakup, and probably many more — that type of pain is a part of life and relationships. However, getting hurt one too many times can destroy your desire for a relationship.
Dating after multiple men have screwed you over isn’t any fun. In fact, it can be a real downer. It takes a special guy to overcome that, and he should probably be prepared for what he’ll be dealing with, at least at first.
1. THEY WAIT TO SAY, “I LOVE YOU.”
They don’t want to hear those three little words until they know you mean them. They’re tired of being disappointed. It hurts way more to get dumped by someone who claims they love you, which is why they’ll put off the phrase for as long as possible.
2. THEY WORRY ABOUT GETTING CHEATING ON.
It doesn’t matter how loyal you are. Even if you’ve never given them any reason to be suspicious of you, they’re still going to wonder if you’re cheating on them. It’s hard to fully trust after getting screwed over so many times in the past.
3. THEY HAVE A HARD TIME OPENING UP.
They don’t want to tell you their deepest, darkest secrets right away because it’ll make them even more attached to you. They try to put up as many walls as possible, because their hearts can’t get broken if they don’t open ourselves up to love.
4. THEY’RE PESSIMISTIC.
Even if everything is going well, they’ll think of a dozen different things that could end the relationship. It’s hard for them to be happy in the moment, because they haven’t completely gotten over the pain of what has happened to them in the past. They know most good things come to an end, and they don’t want to get their hopes up.
5. THEY DON’T WANT YOU TOO INVOLVED IN THEIR LIFE.
The closer you are to their friends and family, the harder the breakup would be. They don’t want to make things any harder on theirselves, so they won’t introduce you to their loved ones until they’re completely serious about you.
6. THEY WANT TO TAKE THINGS SLOW.
It’s going to take them a while to agree to move in together. It might even take them a while to agree to have sex. They don’t want to rush into things and end up making a huge mistake. They’d prefer to take things slow, so they can really get to know you and judge your character.
7. THEY LOOK FOR A REASON TO RUN.
Sometimes, they sabotage their own chances at love. Instead of ignoring red flags like some women do, they create red flags. The longer you’re together, the harder the breakup will be, which is why they try to run as soon as possible to save theirselves the trouble.
8. THEY PREFER CASUAL SEX.
Some of them prefer one-night stands to actual relationships. That way, there’s no chance for them to get hurt. If they never get to know you, then they can never get attached to you.
9. THEY’LL QUESTION YOUR INTENTIONS.
When a guy is nice to them, they’ll wonder what his ulterior motives are. Is he trying to get into my pants? Is he trying to find a FWB? They’ll assume the worst, which is why they can get off to a rocky start with anyone who hits on them.
10. THEY ONLY STICK AROUND IF THEY’RE SERIOUS.
They’ve dealt with enough pain. They don’t want anymore. So if they like you enough to risk getting their heart broken by you, you know they’re serious about you. They wouldn’t date just anyone. You’re special.