So many men waste their time chasing shadows all in the name of love. So many have devoted time, energy and resources to a lady who is not even into them.
They waste time with a girl who doesn’t really like them that much while missing out on girls that truly adore them.
It’s painful sometimes to confront the reality that the girl of your dreams may actually be seeing you in her nightmares alone.
But my guy, you need to sharpen up as you are scouting for a spouse/partner. If your current location doesn’t change you, my brother, change your location. If a lady gives you several of the following signs, there’s a huge possibility that she doesn’t like you and she’s wasting your time, so move on!
#1 She replies with “I’ll let you know” or “I’ll think about it” when you propose.
This is the first sign that should alert you to the impossibility of your dream partner. A girl that likes you doesn’t have to ‘let you know’ or think about everything. Think? Brother waka! A girl that likes you will always be excited when you ask her things or make requests. Most times when a girl says “I’ll let you know,” ‘’let me think about it’’ young man you need to watch it! Before you ask a person for cloth, first look the one wey him dey wear.
#2 She always gives excuses when you want to meet.
She is always busy when you want to meet her, brother-man try another network. As a general rule, if a woman is into you, she’ll make time to hang out with you, no matter how busy she is. Even the busiest of women will put aside a day or a few hours a week to see you. You should be able to read in-between the lines, a letter from the heart can be read boldly on the face.
#3 She will never call/text you first.
When you’re always texting and calling first and she never takes the initiative to be the first to text or call you, it’s a clear sign something is off and you may be wasting your time. A relationship is meant to be a two-way traffic, when the left-hand washes the right hand, the hand automatically becomes clean. If you’re making 75% effort and she’s only making 25%, it’s a sign of danger. And when an old man sees a dangerous snake and refuses to run, then it is assumed that he is ready to die.
#4 Her replies to your texts are very brief.
If she replies you with abbreviations like “K” or “yup” text in a row, even after writing a textbook to her then I am sorry to break it to you, there is nothing tangible going on from her perspective. Same applies if she’s always responding with emojis only. If you are not even receiving ecstatic responses to your texts, your final answer should be walking away, as you have exhausted all available lifelines.
#5 She only texts or calls when she needs a favour.
Sometimes girls “use” guys for favours and then magically disappear into thin air when they have gotten the needed help. She suddenly starts calling you sweet names, she suddenly starts texting you and calling you, Hmmmmm, a bird does not change its feathers just because of a bad weather! Something else is involved. You may see it as being a cool and nice guy by helping her out, but you also have to be smart enough to recognize when “helping her” is becoming too much a pattern, especially when she is not after you but want you can offer her. So, brother you need to be very careful, no be eye wey dem take chop eba dem take dey share meat.
#6 She keeps complaining about other men to you.
The moment she turns you to relationship coach, or a marriage counsellor, my guy, take off!! Does she use you as a therapist? Always complaining to you how she can’t stand the way this guy or that guy treats her. Has she even told you how she “wishes more guys were like you?” My brother, take this statement with a pinch of salt. Who goes about looking for what is not missing? I’m here and you are wishing all guys were like me, really? This is the beginning of friend-zoning, and to avoid being used continuously as the local chairman of this friend- ZONE you need to resign.